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What’s important about Christmas?
What would change if you decided to do Christmas differently this year?
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Who is coming for Christmas?
Are you spending time with the people you love this Christmas?
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Who is coming for Christmas?
One of the major ‘stressors’ at Christmas is spending time with people it’s not easy
to be with.
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The cost of Christmas
We can all acknowledge that Christmas has become commercialised - and seems to start
earlier every year!
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Sharing the load
Leaving one person to pick up the lion’s share of the work is a recipe for exhaustion,
resentment and short tempers.
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Coping with the day
The best laid plans of mice and men do not allow for things going wrong at emotionally
charged times like Christmas.
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Coping with the day
The best laid plans of mice and men do not allow for things going wrong at emotionally charged times like Christmas. Somehow when we are in close proximity with our nearest and dearest, who remember just how to press our buttons, it’s easy for our best intentions to fly out of the window and old habits and behaviours to reassert themselves. Before we know it we find ourselves behaving like children and saying things we may regret later.
Expectations can be very high at Christmas.
What are your expectations for this Christmas?
- making it a special and happy time for close family
- extending a warm and hospitable welcome to other people, whom you don’t see often
- producing a special meal - with ingredients that are unfamiliar or in quantities that stretch your cooking equipment and experience
- Appearing calm and relaxed - rather like the swan gliding serenely upstream, with frantic paddling of webbed feet going on under the smooth surface to counteract the inevitable downstream pull of the currents.
Is it all worth it?
Once Christmas is over we can feel empty and disappointed. We may have to cope with other people’s disappointment too, often expressed as criticism. How about other people’s superiority or complete ingratitude over the efforts gone to, to please them? There can be a lingering sense that we have been taken for granted and worst of all need to prove something next year to make up for any perceived inadequacy this year. Is there a nagging doubt that it could all have been so much better?
This is a time ripe with possibility for arguments, recriminations, invective about each other’s family and the shortcomings of each other. All of this emotion probably heightened by exhaustion, excess alcohol, the overeating of rich and unfamiliar foods and a forced proximity with people who may usually not be around quite so long.
This proximity issue also relates to our nearest and dearest. The Christmas break often extends to beyond New Year. We may see a side of our beloved that only comes out when put under the strain of being so jolly for so long in the presence of people who push their buttons too.
How to cope when emotions are running high
The last FREE resource pack contains handy hints and exercises to help you deal with the additional pressures as they happen, from quick breathing exercises and stress busters to practical ideas on how to get just the help you need right there and then from those around you.
Have a lovely Christmas and a peaceful New Year
Nigel Heath
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